18 Sep 2000
In which Matt thinks about wearing a cross. (preface: Matt is Catholic.)
Off and on, I’ve tried to participate in a prayer compact with my old friends Bertie and Shannon (i.e. we encourage each other to pray daily). But I always get busy and I forget to pray.
So I’ve been trying to think of someway to remind myself to pray every day. But more importantly, I’m looking for some way to keep God as a presence in my daily life.
I’m considering buying a cross to wear. I’ve never been a jewelry person — never worn chains or rings — so I imagine wearing a cross would definitely be a constant reminder.
But wearing a cross can be such a cliche thing. And I have to admit, I’ve always had a bit of a prejudice against people I see wearing crosses. It must be due to some type of associative connection in my head — I guess a lot of the people I’ve known who haven’t been accepting of my being gay have worn crosses.
I have to admit I’m a little worried about what other people would think of me if I wore a cross. I wouldn’t want people to automatically assume I was a conservative Christian for wearing one. I worry that it would send a message to those students I come in contact with who may be Agnostic or Atheist and who would then become just as prejudiced against me as I often am against people who wear crosses.
And then there’s the whole issue of shopping for a cross. We don’t have a Catholic supply store in town, just a Protestant one. You know the kind of shop. Lots of bunny rabbits and flowers in the window. Again, I have a prejudice against those kinds of places, assuming that I wouldn’t be welcome there if the owners knew I was gay.
But all this is really beside the point. I need something in my life to remind me of God’s presence. And I’d much rather wear a cross than a WWJD bracelet.
(Preface: Vis10n is Mormon)
Bully for you. I don’t personally wear a cross, but a renewed desire to live one’s religion is laudable. As for the desire to pray each day, might I suggest a few ideas: Pray at the same time EVERY day. For example, pray over your breakfast, or just as you get out of bed. Also, don’t change the time, or EVER give yourself a day off… taking leave from a daily routine just teaches how to break promises you’ve made to yourself.
Another idea: if you choose to pray in the evening, keep your eyes open during the day for things you’d like to bring up (the dog on the interstate, the pandhandler down town, your friend Sarah…). This will improve the quality of your prayers considerably. Remember: dialogue, not monologue… silence is a fine seasoning to an otherwise good prayer.
Good luck!
Vis10n | 18 Sep 2000