3 Dec 2003
In my ongoing quest to make some new friends, I tried going to 20SomethingNYC again last night. And just like before, I could handle the scripted icebreakers and group discussion just fine. But afterwards when everyone mingled for snacks and drinks, I stood by myself for about 10 minutes trying to find a conversation to join before I bolted in defeat. I still can’t figure out how extroverted people do it.
i’ve found the trick is to always ask a lot of questions and really listen to the responses and ask more questions based on what the other person says. You’re showing an interest in them that way, rather than trying to sell yourself (which, of course, you are doing, but it doesn’t look like that).
Conversation is a fine art. I’m good at starting conversations but I’m terrible at ending them.
jon | 3 Dec 2003