One of the more interesting posts I’ve read on a blog in a really long time.

Not to sound judgmental, but I guess in my own experience, I’m frequently worried about risk *avoidance*. Interesting that you called it a risk.

And just from personal experience, the host doesn’t always warn you. Sometimes the host thinks it’s none of their business, the host doesn’t know the guy’s sexual creepiness, or the host is just too damn drunk. :>

Oh, rock on Matt! Yay for having fun, and yay for conversations the morning after.

(Personally, I think the bigger risk wasn’t going home with the guy; it was blogging it afterward.)

Hey Matt
This is the first time I have been “blogged”. Still not sure how I feel about that though I am flattered by your “review” of the encounter. I personally didn’t consider our meeting anonymous as we met through friends, exchanged names, talked at length at the party, chatted again the next morning and then traded contact information. Would you be interested in a date? Blog and answer and I’ll give you a call.
Sincerely,
The Anonymous Hookup

Graham: I did ask the host (who was not too damn drunk and the well being of his friends is his business) about Matt’s “sexual creepiness” as you called it and he assured me first hand that Matt is a wonderful guy who is worth pursuing.

well done matt! seek this phase to it’s conclusion and only happiness awaits at the end. (and really, do you actually want the guys you meet at bars? I mean, you do at the time, but a week later it’s not even worth remembering)

Er… Jon, I think you might be painting ‘bar people’ with too broad a brush. I’ve had more than a few very nice long-term relationships with men I’ve met in bars, including my current (8-month and counting) boyfriend. It’s all about the quality of the man, not the location or circumstances.

Ohmygosh… o-h-m-y-l-o-r-d… Matt, I am not scandalized by the shady hook-up (in fact, hats off for that!!!), I am stunned that you blogged about it… and gave your “anynomous hookup” your web address!!! *Fantastic* that you feel so self-confident!!! I agree with Graham- damn interesting! Keep us informed and keep up these really raw, honest posts: refreshing! 🙂

Good on ya Matt; and you too Mr Anonymous. Look after each other.

Rob: I was exaggerating for the sake of a joke. I’ve met lots of nice people in bars, and met my current bf (almost 5 years now) on gay.com, so who knows? I was just trying to make matt smile. 😉

I agree with Anonymous Hookup’s response. Not really what I would call an anonymous hookup either considering all that stuff beforehand. If you had said you met someone at The Cock’s backroom on Sunday night and exchanged fluids without a word spoken…that I would chalk up to anonymous encounter and possibly a tad slutty. 🙂

When I originally wrote this post, I had labeled it a (semi-)anonymous hookup. Basically, what I meant was I don’t ever hookup with people so soon after meeting them — usually I hang out with them a couple times beforehand — so this was the closest to anonymous sex that I’ve ever had. I guess it could be more accurately described as a one-night-stand.

As to whether I’ll ever write a post like this again… it ended up making things weird between me and the guy I’ve gone on a couple of dates with lately. But we talked about it yesterday and we’re still going to go out again, so maybe this incident will help add some trajectory to that dating.

So I guess being blogged about isn’t a good thing. If I had known you were seeing someone I would not have flirted with you let alone go home and sleep with you. At the party you said I seemed like a catch. That signaled to me that you were datable. Though I did not feel like it was an anonymous hookup before, I do now.
Thank you

Ouch. I guess I’m not going to be able to say anything right to dig myself out of this hole.

I’ve adjusted the entry to read “casual” hookup not “anonymous.” After talking it over with a friend, I’ve realized that’s a better descriptor. And I’m still trying to make up with the guy.

That you care enough to make the effort is a testament to your character, Matt.

It’s a tough situation and sometimes a no-win one. I know my site is pretty easy to find on the net due to my lack of imagination with the domain name. So, sometimes, I get feedback from someone I know to not write about them. Writing about one’s personal life publicly can be good and not so good…hope things work themselves out in this case.

“… maybe this incident will help add some trajectory to that dating …”

Hope so!!! Got my fingers crossed!

Sweetie, I don’t know why there has been such an outcry regarding this post. Everyone’s had one or fifty, you’ve just got the balls to share your hopefully great conquest with the world. Bravo!

My only quesitons is why I skipped this party?
Sheesh!
I can solve everyone’s problems right here.
I’m single, cute, horribly funny and I have no problem with hooking up after a first meeting.
So any disenfranchised parties (or ones not even involved in the first place) can call me.
Does looking for a date on a Blog board make me desperate?

This is better than an Episode of Coronation Street.

Caught !
Hehe. I read Hit or Miss daily and I like the mix of content on it. This post about the posters personal life got very interesting with the person he met up with replying . Least he didn’t say the…